For what do we live, but to make sport for
our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn? – Jane Austin, Pride and Prejudice
I first read that sentence in a daily email
from The American
Scholar. Then this sentence - source unknown -“what other people think of you is none of your business, it’s their
business,”
has
been doing the rounds of what I call the Personal Betterment blogs. It all seems to boil down to it being a good
thing that we can’t read each other’s minds. I’ll say!
I’ve a Philistine neighbor who also prides
himself on saving a buck. (I call him cheap.) I’ve another one who is usually
found neatening up his property and who washes his cars at the drop of a hat,
parading out there topless as he suds and rinses. (I call him anal.) I’ve one
who, in this community with leash laws and scooping rules, regularly lets his
dog out to do his business wherever it wants to. (I call this guy lazy.) (I
think I’d call him thoughtless too.) They are all quite nice neighbors who
would do anything for any one of us should the need arise. Somehow though, the
fat in the milk of human kindness in me has been watered down to fat-free
level.
After living more or less in the woods for
over twenty years I am fascinated by neighbors. I am not just fascinated with
them as neighbors, but also as couples and how they relate to each other.
Sounds like I’ve had my head in the sand for years, but really, in my later
inquisitive years, with the exception of family and close friends, I’ve seen
little of how most of the rest of the nation’s couples go about daily life. It
is fascinating. Who cooks, who doesn’t and eats most of their meals out, what
gals have cleaning ladies, what guys call in a handy man just to change a light
bulb, who goes to bed very early, who are night owls. I don’t sit at the window
and watch the neighborhood happenings (really, over the years, I’ve missed most
of the important happenings, like when the police came to the court to make an
arrest!) but I’ve absorbed information over the last seven years or so. Very
interesting. I’m sure Frank and I are very interesting to all of them too.
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I'm looking at you! |
Love thy neighbor. Do I love them? No, but
I’ll be there in a flash if they call.