Lazy lump
that I am, I’ve decided to take a stress-free Friday the Thirteenth this year and repost this piece
from the first week of December 2010.
National Stress-Free Holiday Month - is there such a thing as a
stress-free December? Many families
have begun to simplify the whole process in several ways, some of which might
work for your own family.
First category on our lists: Gifts!
I’m sure that if you are at the base of a very large family tree you are
having a hard time just thinking of suitable gifts for everyone on those
branches and twigs, much less going out to buy, and then wrap and, perhaps,
mail the gifts. It’s no longer fun when
it becomes a chore or when the monetary end of it gets out of hand.
Some families stop giving gifts to those married or over twenty-one,
those no longer children. In other
families they do a grab bag swap, in others the adult exchange gifts under a
certain dollar amount. In many families they’ve eliminated gifts for all but
those in their own households - after all, is it great fun to open them - and
make instead a nice charitable contribution in the name of the family.
Next: holiday cards. Many folks streamline the card process by having
them printed with their names, and then use printed labels for the
addresses. Good for them! Good for me!
I then can streamline my own list by eliminating them from it. When you care to send the very least, without
even a hand-written “Hi, how are you?”, it says to me that we must not mean too
much to each other. Cards are one of my
favorite parts of the holidays. I make,
write and address them all by hand, so I am less than appreciative of the
shortcuts.
Then there are those almost ubiquitous holiday letters. I read this recently: “Holiday letters are a
lot like fruitcake. People either love
them or hate them.” Too true! I can love ‘em or hate ‘em, depending on how
well they’re done. I’ve retired friends
who are great travelers and who send letters filled with wonderful pictures and
highlights of their experiences. I’ve
other retired friends who regale their readers with pages of the minutiae of
their own, their children’s, and grandchildren’s daily lives - boring, to be
truthful. Can you guess which ones I
keep and which I toss right out?
Cards or letters, you can make life easier for yourself by tackling the
job early - everything begins in January.
Update your card list early in the new year (be ruthless!), then save
money by buying your cards at the January sales. Begin working on your holiday letter as the
newsworthy events occur. Start writing
the cards and wrapping up the holiday letter just after Thanksgiving. Sounds easy and, when you start early and
stick to it, it is.
Here’s a good topic: decorations.
To do or over-do, that is up to you.
When we moved to Sun City, though our house here is bigger, it was the
perfect opportunity to cut down on the ornamentation. I passed on their favorite ornaments to our
children, and gave away a lot of the extraneous décor. What I kept, for indoors
and out, now fits in three 14-gallon totes.
This year I may decide to pare down even further, using more fresh
flowers because they don’t require future storage! It can be counterproductive to use all your
decorative pieces just because you always have.
Pass most of them down, cull out a lot, and cherish the very best of the
rest. It’s always fun to pull out the
decorations, saying hello to old favorites.
It’s less fun to have to take everything down, dust it all off, find the
right boxes, and pack it up again. Revel
in the simplicity of minimal décor and less to store! Oh - that rhymes!
Last, but not least in our hearts: food!! Are you still cooking the whole meal from
soup to nuts? You are either a glutton
for punishment or a control freak. Let
some of the younger generation start to hone their culinary skills. Pass the torch, and then promise to bring
along your specialty - the family favorite appetizer, zesty carrots, or praline
pumpkin pie. How’s that for
stress-free!?
Many families are choosing to have their major holiday feast cooked by
others. Some have it catered and brought
to the house - a great idea, but there is still the clean-up to be done. Others go all out and go out. Many like to have a festive restaurant meal
on the night before, then rest and recuperate and open some presents the next
day. Many must have the main meal on the
main day. Either way, you can use Google
to search for restaurants in our area that will be open on the various
holidays. This is the least work, the least worry all ‘round.
December is a month for all - enjoy all thirty-one days! You can do it!